Surrounding Yourself with the Right Kind of People

As my mom used to say to me when I was teenager, “You are who you hang out with.”  It wasn’t until the last couple years that I’ve fully grasped what she was trying to say to me.  I have learned that the people you surround yourself with either lift you up or bring you down; they motivate you or drain you; they support you or criticize you; they make you laugh or make you cry.  It is important to make an effort with those people in your life who are kind, who love you, and who are a positive influence in your life.  And, of course, it is just as important that you also try to be kind, loving, and positive so that those people want to be around you as well.

Your mindset/outlook in life is the most important thing in determining your level of happiness; however, your relationships with others can help increase your happiness quotient.  Most people don’t realize the impact the type of people you surround yourself with has on your well-being.  In Thrive: Finding Happiness the Blue Zone Way, Dan Buettner traveled to places around the world that have the highest happiness quotients in order to find out what they’re doing differently.  He traveled to Denmark, Singapore, Mexico, and San Luis Obispo, California and found one of the factors that played a large role in people’s happiness was the amount of close, loving relationships people had with others in their lives.  Most lived very close to family (or even with family members) or had many friends nearby (and many had both).  This fact hit home for me as I had been living far away from family and friends for the past 2 1/2 years and had just recently moved home to Michigan so that I could be closer to family and friends.  I wanted to surround myself with people who loved me, supported me, and believed in me, and I wanted to be able to do the same for them.

The following are a few inspirational quotes on surrounding yourself with the “right” people:

“Associate only with positive, focused people who you can learn from and who will not drain your valuable energy with uninspiring attitudes. By developing relationships with those committed to constant improvement and the pursuit of the best that life has to offer, you will have plenty of company on your path to the top of whatever mountain you seek to climb.” – Robin Sharma

I just want to say “Thank you” so much to all of my family and friends who have supported me and believed in me.  I appreciate you all more than I can express in words!  Here are some of the inspiring, loving, kind, positive people I am lucky to have in my life:

My Dad, Mom, and husband, Kenny

My younger brother, Scott, soon-to-be sister-in-law, Tasha, sister-in-law, Jess, and older brother, Mick

my sister-in-law, Jen, mother-in-law, Linda, and sister-in-law, Sarah

my friends, (clockwise, from left to right) Amy, Rachel, Ellen, Lisa, Lisa, Jennie, Tara, and Lindsay

Have you been making sure that the people you surround yourself with are good, kind, uplifting people?  Who do you need to put in a little more effort with?  And who is draining the spirit out of your soul that you need to let go of?



32 thoughts on “Surrounding Yourself with the Right Kind of People

  1. If there was a LOVE button I would press it. SO relevant to my life right now. I’m trying very hard to get over being who other people want me to be and being myself. I have always been the type who had a couple close friends but wanted a bigger circle. SO I tried to be who I thought people wanted me to be. I’m starting to realize that doesn’t matter- I should be me because that’s how I’ll meet people i really connect with and want to be around. It’s making me more comfortable in my own skin and I find I am actually making more friends this way. Funny how it works eh?

    Thanks for this post 🙂

    • Fantastic writing! So beautifully put and I love the props you give at the end to the most imp people in your life! I feel sad because I am currently trying to make big changes in my life and I find that the ones that are closest to me are resisting….I of course do not want to

    • Yes, I totally understand where you were coming from! I compromised my true self to make friends in the past as well, but I agree, that you will make better, more quality friends by being who you truly are. Thanks for the comment 🙂

  2. Sorry about that, my son was banging on the keyboard! Anyways, I’ve distanced myself to a degree, but of course don’t want to cut family out of my life. Though I am not getting (emotional) support from them right now, all I can do is trust in myself and have faith that they will come around.

    • Yeah, it’s really hard when you are trying to do something out of the norm that people don’t understand at first (or maybe ever) – I absolutely can relate with this. When I initially became vegetarian and vegan I felt very alone and unsupported because no one I was close to was vegan. But I think you will find if you set a good example and show them by your actions how important what you’re doing is, they will come around. Try to find little things you can relate to certain people in your life (e.g., if your mom really loves gardening, you discuss organic tips and ask her questions as well). Good luck with your journey, and I hope they come around!

  3. So true, Jamie! It felt like the hardest thing in the world is to cut those people out… but a year down the road, I feel so fresh and vibrant! This is such a great reminder that I’m making the right choice… day-by-day 🙂

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  6. Wonderful post !! I completely agree, we have to be careful with who we spend time with !! I do notice a differance when I am around negitive people. It is not good. Positive people are who you want to reflect back into your own life !! Thanks for the reminder , it cannot be said enough !!!

  7. This really hit home for me today. I have found the truth in life being enriched or degraded by those with whom I spend my time. There is another quote that can to my mind that I have always liked and I think that it is relevant since those we are with influence our thoughts:

    Be careful what you think, for your thoughts become your words.
    Be careful what you say, for your words become your actions.
    Be careful what you do, for your actions become your habits.
    Be careful what becomes habitual, for your habits become your destiny.
    -Scott Chester

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